Umuntu wese ageze mu bigero, kenshi na kenshi, arahitamwo kwabira canke kwabirwa. Canke kubireka. Biranashika mugabo akazazanirwa, bikamugora gufata ingingo ; akibaza nimba atoba aruguyemwo, hamwe yofata ingingo yo kwubaka urwiwe. Ng’utu utubazo wokwifashisha.
« Amaso akunda ntabona neza » ; nk’uko ba sokuru bayamaze. Ico umuntu ategerezwa kumenya ni uko ingingo yoba afashe yo kwubaka urwiwe itoba ishingiye ku bishobisho, nyabuna yoba azi neza uwo bagira bafatane iyo ngingo ihambaye.
Hari rero bimwe mu bibazo umuntu yabwirizwa kwisunga mu gufata iyo ngingo : mbega uramuzi ? Iyo ari muhira iwabo, mu bagenzi biwe canke abawe, yitwara gute ? Ivyo bishobora kukwereka ko uwo muntu yisanzura ari kumwe n’abandi bantu, kandi adahindagurika.
Ikindi woraba ni uko mutahurana kandi muhuriza kuri vyinshi, haba mu bijanye n’imibonano mpuzabitsina, ibishobisho, ubumenyi… Aha ni ukumenya ko kugira imibonano mpuzabitsina kenshi atari co cerekana ko muzokwubakana. Mutegerezwa nyabuna kwiyumvanamwo, ikiguye nabi umwe kikababaza uwundi, ndetse n’ikimuryohera kigahimbara uwundi.
Ikiyago
Hari ikindi kintu gihambaye, iyo kitameze neza gishobora kuba inkwezi y’amarere. Ni ukuganira. Iyo hari ibiguhimbaye canke ibikuguye nabi, hanyuma ukabona ntiwobimutura ataco umuhishije, canke mu kuganira na we utishongora canke utibaza ngo ahava akugaya, aho haba hari agahaze gakomeye.
Mbega, ico mutahurijeko murafata umwanya wo kukiganira mu nyum...
